I am going on 25-years old %26amp; I am thinking about trying martial arts again for the third time. I tried it when I was 14, then when I was 19, now at almost at age 25, I am thinking of doing it again. But I really don't wanna waste my money or time. When I was 14, I tried Jeet-Kune-Do. Then at 19, I tried Chinese Kung-Fu. I'm a life long Bruce Lee fan. Those styles worked for him, but not for me cause I learned nothing from either style. I am not really a physical person. I've always been a big guy and kinda on the chubby side. Not so much more now though, but I am still big. So if I get back into martial arts, what kind of school should I go to? And does martial arts really work in fist fights or is it all for show? Cause most fights I see are guys laying on the ground, wrestling. It seems like UFC ground fighting is the best style out there.
Which fighting style should I try?
For striking: muay thai, kickboxing, boxing, sanshou, kyokushin and shidokan karate.
For grappling: judo, brazilian jujitsu, sambo, wrestling.
Jeet Kune do is more a philosophy than a martial art, to discard what's useless, and to use what works, you could say it's the genesis of modern MMA (mixed martial arts)
"UFC ground fighting" is just a mixture of grappling arts, mentioned above. The most common ones nowadays are brazilian jujitsu and wrestling.
I hope this information is useful.
good luck!
Reply:muay thai is great. i train along with jiu-jitsu. any style can work for you, its just you have to be comfortable with it. i have trained in tae kwon do, kung fu, and a little bif of judo, and loved them all. the reason the UFC guys do what they do is because they have to be trained in multiple disciplines. most of them train muay thai, boxing, greco roman wrestling, jiu-jitsu, and judo. they need all those because there is no tell where the fight might go so they have to be prepared to fight from anywhere.
Reply:What styles are available in your town? I would recommend basing your decision not so much on the specific style, but by the school and instructor. Visit a couple of the dojos around so you can actually see if it's something you are interested in. Ask a lot of questions and observe how the instructor interacts with his/her students. If you let me know what kinds of schools are near you I can try to help a little more. The UFC ground fighting you're talking about is most likely jujitsu. There are also MMA schools, who teach a variety of stand-up and ground fighting techniques. I think it's easier to have a base before joining an MMA school, but that also depends on how good the instructor is.
Reply:I would try the internal martial arts such as Tai Chi. The moves are slow but they hide a wealth of strength if you study for long enough. You will develop self confidence as your balance improves dramatically and you will find that your stress level decreases tremendously, which makes you feel calmer in situations where fighting may be necessary. If you are not really a physical person I definitely recommend the internal martial arts. Although street fighting skills may take longer to develop, you will develop other skills that help more in situations where fights may occur. And the physical and mental benefits from the work is amazing. You will very quickly improve your breath control, increase blood flow through the entire body, and generally improve every aspect of your health. You will be able to quickly bring your body to a calm, relaxed state in any circumstance.
Reply:you should try kickboxing,it will increase your physical ability and fit yourself,then you can try capoeira
Reply:i a gree with syntheticmynd , do muay thai , it will increase your skill in martial art and also burn your fat faster ,...
Reply:anything thats effective in a street fight.
Reply:Before you take any style I would look at why you have not learned on two previous occassions. Perhaps your approach to learning was wrong or the instructors while good martial artists may not have been very good instructors. It could be a combination of both and I have found that some people have a problem learning martial arts so your teaching approach has to be modified to teach them or they flounder. That being said shop around and look for a good instructor who can teach, not one that is just a good martial artist. If you can find one that teaches what appeals to you in so far as the type/style of martial art then thats even better.
While the wrestling, grappling styles are very effective keep in mind that they have rules that favor that type of fighting and the fight going to the ground. No kicks or knees to the groin; no eye or finger jabs; no fish hooking or ear clapping or head butts; no elbows to the spine or rabbit punches to the back of the skull. These are all techniques that a skilled, well trained martial artist would apply in a street situation. They are very effective and end the fight before it ever reaches the ground or while a person is trying to get you to the ground. But if you prefer the ground fighting aspects then look for a well organized instructor who posesses the abilty to teach. Visit each school a couple of times and observe who is teaching and watch the classes. Look to see how he handles a student that is struggling with something and if he succeeds in making a negative into a positive. Also look to see if the instructor presents techniques that are appropriate for the skill level of the students. Some techniques are very difficult to learn if you have not learned something else first. Talk to the students afterwards and see if they are happy with the level and quality of the instruction. So shop around and see what is available and if there is a good instructor out there that teaches it. You will be more likely to find them if you take the time and make the extra effort and probably be much happier in the long run and not feel like you wasted your time or money.
Reply:Well, you can try Aikido, since you're not really "physical." It seems to be a good style to get into after you've matured a bit too. Now that you're 25, you'll probably appreciate martial arts more.
Reply:most schools have a MMA night, where you can learn BJJ,boxing,wresting,judo, etc...pretty much everything, check it out.......it will make you a more rounded martial artist, and you will never get bored
Reply:I think all traditional martial arts disciplines are effective and have something positive to teach anyone, but not all discplines will appeal to everyone.
Clearly you have tried two which did not appeal to you at the time you tried them, but these are most definately two discplines that many people may recommend. Thus I would suggest that you should look at what is available in your area and go check them out for yourself. Talk with the instructor/s, observe a few classes, chat with the students, and maybe try a few classes out before committing.
No-one here can really advise you as there are too many variables. I would not agree with your contention tht UFC seems like the best style out there. UFC is certainly popular right now, but that does not mean it is the best, nor does it mean it will be suitable or appealing to you. Equally, I believe most UFC or MMA fighters are from traditional disciplines and the creation of schools which teach MMA concepts strictly for the UFC/MMA is a relatively new things.
Your size, weight, height, gender, body type etc. etc. really should not have any impact on the effectiveness of the discipline you choose. You can learn something from any discipline. You just have to take some time to find the discipline that most appeals to you :)
Good luck!
Ken C
9th Dan HapMoosaKi-Do
8th Dan TaeKwon-Do
7th Dan YongChul-Do
Reply:i would suggest judo. you are big, nd judo focuses on throws which would b a good fit...jiu-jitsu if you want to learn ground moves, these two styles used to be one. Samaria's used these arts to throw the enemy to the ground...size is good but technique is more important
Reply:Don't try, do it and stick with it, make an effort!
Otherwise get a dog...
Reply:Tae Kwon Do is the Best
Reply:I train in the Doce Pares Filipino Martial arts. Cacoy Canete, Grand Master.Why don't you train in Krav Maga? Israeli combat fighting. you can incorporate this style into whatever system you learn.
Thursday, November 12, 2009
Need somebody to help explain capoeira concepts to me?
Im making a video game and one of my boss characters are going to be a capoeira fighter. Now I am a martial artist but I have only studied Muay Thai , Eagle claw Kung Fu, and Jujitsu in depth. I have a very brief knowledge of capoeira but not enough to design a great capoeira fighter. Anyways Im looking for somebody who understands capoeira and its concepts pretty well to explain some of its beleifs and style to me. I personally have always wanted to learn some , because my style is all about rythem and playing games with my oponent and kinda light hearted like capoeira, but I wont leave my current school for it. Anyways any help is appriciated.
Need somebody to help explain capoeira concepts to me?
it isn't about looking cool. Capoeira is a martial art developed by people who fought for their freedom. It involves being sneaky and able to attack from a large variety of positions. My teacher can attack in ways that seem impossible and from even the most uncomfortable position. The moves aren't flashy, they hurt, even the most obscure attack from my teacher are lightning fast and hurt like hell.
The escaping slaves didn't have music to dance by when their freedom was on the line, and they were hunted by search parties, They did serious damage and the art did not degrade into a mere dance. We still hit each other in capoeira, although we try not to.
you can watch capoeira videos on you tube for ideas. Anything with sul de bahia or batuque is good. One that caught my attention was called capoeira prodigy. Also, pay EXTREME attention to ones that have a mestre in it. A mestre is a master of capoeira; their fights are amazing, even if they slow (may be in title). People still kick and get kicked in capoeira.
I hear good things about the capoeira fighter in Tekken 3
Reply:You can find capoeira teachers at www.capoeiranation.com Capoeira Nation is an online instructional Capoeira website and worldwide community. Youcan find Capoeira teachers anywhere in the world, connect with Capoeiristas everywhere, and of course learn Capoeira through the instructional videos. Report It
Reply:It's basically dance fighting. That means the music is an important part of what you should have in the game. Although hands can be used to block and punch (think kick boxing with much more kick than boxing) it's more of the use of legs and head butting. Defense is rolling, ducking and side stepping rather than the standard arm blocks used in Asia. Baiting and fooling is also important. It's a art of style (cool moves and from trickery) over substance (damage).
Reply:I always thought Capoera was developed as a "hidden" fighting system developed by slaves who made it look like a dance form to mislead / disguise its true purpose from the land-owners/military/police. I could be wrong I suppose.
Reply:I have not studied the style myself but have several dvd's on the art. (my brother likes high, flashy, and street useless things). Anyway, from what I've read and heard about the art is that it is from the African slaves that were taken to Brazil. They were chained by the wrists, not the feet, do to the wet and soft ground. Seems to have allowed them an easier way of walking. From that they devloped the style from there art of fighting and dance. The dance was to hide that fact that they were training in a fighting style. Over time there owners only saw the dance and allowed them to keep it. As I understand that is the basic history of the style. I've seen it and personally find it's fighting ability to be in suspect. But it was passed off as dance for so long that maybe that is all that it became, after generations. I can see how a Capoeira pract. could "get lucky" with a high flashy, spinning kick and catch someone off guard, but for a real life down and dirty street fight I think it wouln't have the over all ability to be effective, past a "once in a life time, act of the almighty"
Need somebody to help explain capoeira concepts to me?
it isn't about looking cool. Capoeira is a martial art developed by people who fought for their freedom. It involves being sneaky and able to attack from a large variety of positions. My teacher can attack in ways that seem impossible and from even the most uncomfortable position. The moves aren't flashy, they hurt, even the most obscure attack from my teacher are lightning fast and hurt like hell.
The escaping slaves didn't have music to dance by when their freedom was on the line, and they were hunted by search parties, They did serious damage and the art did not degrade into a mere dance. We still hit each other in capoeira, although we try not to.
you can watch capoeira videos on you tube for ideas. Anything with sul de bahia or batuque is good. One that caught my attention was called capoeira prodigy. Also, pay EXTREME attention to ones that have a mestre in it. A mestre is a master of capoeira; their fights are amazing, even if they slow (may be in title). People still kick and get kicked in capoeira.
I hear good things about the capoeira fighter in Tekken 3
Reply:You can find capoeira teachers at www.capoeiranation.com Capoeira Nation is an online instructional Capoeira website and worldwide community. Youcan find Capoeira teachers anywhere in the world, connect with Capoeiristas everywhere, and of course learn Capoeira through the instructional videos. Report It
Reply:It's basically dance fighting. That means the music is an important part of what you should have in the game. Although hands can be used to block and punch (think kick boxing with much more kick than boxing) it's more of the use of legs and head butting. Defense is rolling, ducking and side stepping rather than the standard arm blocks used in Asia. Baiting and fooling is also important. It's a art of style (cool moves and from trickery) over substance (damage).
Reply:I always thought Capoera was developed as a "hidden" fighting system developed by slaves who made it look like a dance form to mislead / disguise its true purpose from the land-owners/military/police. I could be wrong I suppose.
Reply:I have not studied the style myself but have several dvd's on the art. (my brother likes high, flashy, and street useless things). Anyway, from what I've read and heard about the art is that it is from the African slaves that were taken to Brazil. They were chained by the wrists, not the feet, do to the wet and soft ground. Seems to have allowed them an easier way of walking. From that they devloped the style from there art of fighting and dance. The dance was to hide that fact that they were training in a fighting style. Over time there owners only saw the dance and allowed them to keep it. As I understand that is the basic history of the style. I've seen it and personally find it's fighting ability to be in suspect. But it was passed off as dance for so long that maybe that is all that it became, after generations. I can see how a Capoeira pract. could "get lucky" with a high flashy, spinning kick and catch someone off guard, but for a real life down and dirty street fight I think it wouln't have the over all ability to be effective, past a "once in a life time, act of the almighty"
What are your Favorite Youtube Movies?
here's mine: Once Upon a time in High School
http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=...
[R] Violence and Language (120 min)
Ever Seen Advent Children?
http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=...
[PG-13] Sci-Fi Action (100 min)
More YouTube Videos:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DY1t8qVlW...
[G] Fine Kung-Fu Skills (3:08 min)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wuPDm5fYF...
[TV-14] A Charlie Brown Parody: Jihad Charlie Brown
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XnJAozfBq...
[PG] Uhh.. Unicorns.. and a Candy Mountain..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TTwgNhX4B...
[R] Language: Crazy German Kid
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_6-KrrIbA...
[G] Wierdest Japanese Video
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BoL7XpPL9...
[TV-MA] everything MA has. Drawn Together
Enjoy, and be sure to share YOUR favorite YouTube Videos too :)
http://www.youtube.com
What are your Favorite Youtube Movies?
the simpsons - live version
Reply:Dr Tran!
http://youtube.com/watch?v=yKS... Report It
Reply:My Favorites r " My Stuck Up Sweet Sixteen"by Jessykuh and " My Super Sweet Sixteen" by reallyitsspencer ha ha so funny! Report It
Reply:i saw this last week and i think it's one of the funniest things I have ever seen. It's just...weird.
Behold: My Hands Are Bananas
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RO10s_HK6...
Reply:the ghost video
Reply:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DNDBLmqwD...
love the cartoon, love the song, love the artist.
3T (Triple Threat)
Reply:Russell Peters
Reply:Mine are.
Pokemon!!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qmp0SUExY...
A:F6!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EAnx_m_c-...
Reply:the funny harry potter
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dhUjf6lYu...
flowers funeral
http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=...
[R] Violence and Language (120 min)
Ever Seen Advent Children?
http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=...
[PG-13] Sci-Fi Action (100 min)
More YouTube Videos:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DY1t8qVlW...
[G] Fine Kung-Fu Skills (3:08 min)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wuPDm5fYF...
[TV-14] A Charlie Brown Parody: Jihad Charlie Brown
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XnJAozfBq...
[PG] Uhh.. Unicorns.. and a Candy Mountain..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TTwgNhX4B...
[R] Language: Crazy German Kid
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_6-KrrIbA...
[G] Wierdest Japanese Video
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BoL7XpPL9...
[TV-MA] everything MA has. Drawn Together
Enjoy, and be sure to share YOUR favorite YouTube Videos too :)
http://www.youtube.com
What are your Favorite Youtube Movies?
the simpsons - live version
Reply:Dr Tran!
http://youtube.com/watch?v=yKS... Report It
Reply:My Favorites r " My Stuck Up Sweet Sixteen"by Jessykuh and " My Super Sweet Sixteen" by reallyitsspencer ha ha so funny! Report It
Reply:i saw this last week and i think it's one of the funniest things I have ever seen. It's just...weird.
Behold: My Hands Are Bananas
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RO10s_HK6...
Reply:the ghost video
Reply:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DNDBLmqwD...
love the cartoon, love the song, love the artist.
3T (Triple Threat)
Reply:Russell Peters
Reply:Mine are.
Pokemon!!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qmp0SUExY...
A:F6!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EAnx_m_c-...
Reply:the funny harry potter
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dhUjf6lYu...
flowers funeral
Do Universities Look at your clubs and voulenteer work?
Do Universities look at your clubs and voulenteer work?
EG. If i want to get into engineering, does it matter if:
1) I worked during the summer at an engineering firm for 3 years,
2) Joined the hockey team, robotic team, etc. during school
3) Gained my pilots license during the summer
4) Have 100 hours voulenteering at a daycare
5) Won Kung-fu awards
*This is only an example*
Like do universities actually care what clubs you joined? I also heard that people with more voulenteer hours are more likely to get in then people with less hours, is this true? How much does extra-cirucular activities/voulenteering/achievements affect your chances of getting into a university?
Do Universities Look at your clubs and voulenteer work?
That's a pretty awesome resume. As long as you make sure in your essay and make sure those teachers or authority figures that write recommendations for you get all that in. Colleges do look into outside work you've done, just like they don't just focus on the SATs or ACTs. Volunteer hours are always a bonus.
Just make sure you get it across some how. It's always a good point to bring up in interviews and admission counselors are always interested to see what you can bring to the school besides money of course.
Reply:They like to know about it but it doesn't make too much difference. What they want is the academic, but if someone looking at your application has the same interests then it makes everything a lot easier during personal interviews.
Reply:Part of it depends on the school. Many large public universities look mainly at GPA and standardized test scores. I've read a lot that it doesn't so much matter how many hours of volunteering, or how many/which clubs, but they like to see long-term earnest commitment to one or a few things.
EG. If i want to get into engineering, does it matter if:
1) I worked during the summer at an engineering firm for 3 years,
2) Joined the hockey team, robotic team, etc. during school
3) Gained my pilots license during the summer
4) Have 100 hours voulenteering at a daycare
5) Won Kung-fu awards
*This is only an example*
Like do universities actually care what clubs you joined? I also heard that people with more voulenteer hours are more likely to get in then people with less hours, is this true? How much does extra-cirucular activities/voulenteering/achievements affect your chances of getting into a university?
Do Universities Look at your clubs and voulenteer work?
That's a pretty awesome resume. As long as you make sure in your essay and make sure those teachers or authority figures that write recommendations for you get all that in. Colleges do look into outside work you've done, just like they don't just focus on the SATs or ACTs. Volunteer hours are always a bonus.
Just make sure you get it across some how. It's always a good point to bring up in interviews and admission counselors are always interested to see what you can bring to the school besides money of course.
Reply:They like to know about it but it doesn't make too much difference. What they want is the academic, but if someone looking at your application has the same interests then it makes everything a lot easier during personal interviews.
Reply:Part of it depends on the school. Many large public universities look mainly at GPA and standardized test scores. I've read a lot that it doesn't so much matter how many hours of volunteering, or how many/which clubs, but they like to see long-term earnest commitment to one or a few things.
What should I get my family for Christmas? PLEASE HELP! I am going Christmas shopping tomorrow!?
will list everyone in my family, what they like, and how old they are. Can you please tell me what I should get them? Please include links. Thanks!
Dad: likes chinese language, kung fu, computer programs, going to restaurants, going to the movies
Mom: likes good smelling shampoos, lotions, pillows, stuff like that, new shoes, nail polish,
Brother: age 26, likes sports, tv, weight lifting, chinese food, rock bands (like evanesense and fall out boy)
Brother: age 23, likes school, weight lifting, heavy metal (like metallica), arby's, coney island, going to the movies
Sister: age 20, likes cheerleading, serority, shopping, shoes, express, starbucks, going to the movies
Sister: age 12, likes singing, music, karaoke, reading, books, shopping, wetseal, kohl's, webkinz, going to the movies
Brother: 8, likes video games, tv, going to the movies, webkinz, legos
Can you please include links to what I should get them? Thanks so much!
What should I get my family for Christmas? PLEASE HELP! I am going Christmas shopping tomorrow!?
Hi,
ok.
Dad: Gift him a gift certificate to a special restraunt or movie giftcard, or get some computer programs or favorite movies of his at Bestbuy.
Mom: Get her some bodylotions from Bath and Body works, or some home decor from Bed Bath Body and Beyond.
Brother-26: Maybe get him cds from his favorite rockbands, or iTunes giftcard for him to use, but I think if you get him a specific gift it would be better..can buy him some sport giftcard from Big5 or Sports Authority or any sports place he likes. Or subscribe him to a sports magazine if he likes to read those.
Brother-23: Movie giftcard, dvd or iTunes giftcard, cds or Arbys giftcard, or subscription to a sports mag.
Sister-20: Starbucks giftcard, movie giftcard, maybe get her some accersories for cheer or subscribe her to a cheerleading mag. Or a giftcard to her fave clothes store or shoe store.
Sister-12: Wetseal or Kohls giftcard, movie giftcard, maybe find a karoke game or some singalongs in Target or Bestbuy for her, or a Barnes and Noble giftcard.
Brother-8: Movie giftcard, legos from Target (in the kids boys toy aisle) or some video games he likes.
There basically are some ideas what you can get each person, will throw in some links soon please wait i'll put them on here, overall looks like everyone likes going to the movies lol, but hey if you dont want to give them all that then giving them what each person likes is fine:))
Reply:Waht is the priece rance, because legos can get expensive if you were to get those for your bro
Reply:take your family out 2 the movies..
dad: take him 2 the movies
mom: a comfortable pillow
26-brother: as u take him %26amp; your dad 2 the movies go for some chinese food(before the movie).
23-brother:an intresting book
12-sister: a kreoking video game
8-brother: a lego video game
java
Dad: likes chinese language, kung fu, computer programs, going to restaurants, going to the movies
Mom: likes good smelling shampoos, lotions, pillows, stuff like that, new shoes, nail polish,
Brother: age 26, likes sports, tv, weight lifting, chinese food, rock bands (like evanesense and fall out boy)
Brother: age 23, likes school, weight lifting, heavy metal (like metallica), arby's, coney island, going to the movies
Sister: age 20, likes cheerleading, serority, shopping, shoes, express, starbucks, going to the movies
Sister: age 12, likes singing, music, karaoke, reading, books, shopping, wetseal, kohl's, webkinz, going to the movies
Brother: 8, likes video games, tv, going to the movies, webkinz, legos
Can you please include links to what I should get them? Thanks so much!
What should I get my family for Christmas? PLEASE HELP! I am going Christmas shopping tomorrow!?
Hi,
ok.
Dad: Gift him a gift certificate to a special restraunt or movie giftcard, or get some computer programs or favorite movies of his at Bestbuy.
Mom: Get her some bodylotions from Bath and Body works, or some home decor from Bed Bath Body and Beyond.
Brother-26: Maybe get him cds from his favorite rockbands, or iTunes giftcard for him to use, but I think if you get him a specific gift it would be better..can buy him some sport giftcard from Big5 or Sports Authority or any sports place he likes. Or subscribe him to a sports magazine if he likes to read those.
Brother-23: Movie giftcard, dvd or iTunes giftcard, cds or Arbys giftcard, or subscription to a sports mag.
Sister-20: Starbucks giftcard, movie giftcard, maybe get her some accersories for cheer or subscribe her to a cheerleading mag. Or a giftcard to her fave clothes store or shoe store.
Sister-12: Wetseal or Kohls giftcard, movie giftcard, maybe find a karoke game or some singalongs in Target or Bestbuy for her, or a Barnes and Noble giftcard.
Brother-8: Movie giftcard, legos from Target (in the kids boys toy aisle) or some video games he likes.
There basically are some ideas what you can get each person, will throw in some links soon please wait i'll put them on here, overall looks like everyone likes going to the movies lol, but hey if you dont want to give them all that then giving them what each person likes is fine:))
Reply:Waht is the priece rance, because legos can get expensive if you were to get those for your bro
Reply:take your family out 2 the movies..
dad: take him 2 the movies
mom: a comfortable pillow
26-brother: as u take him %26amp; your dad 2 the movies go for some chinese food(before the movie).
23-brother:an intresting book
12-sister: a kreoking video game
8-brother: a lego video game
java
Need some advice on first impression of my niece's boyfriend?
Just met this dude in the materinty ward no less. My sis tells me in code that this dude is a real dirt bag. My neice is only 17 and nine months pregers. I go to introduce myself and he gives me the matcho hand shake with the kung fu grip. I look him dead in the eyes and return his challenge with a stout grip of my own, and ask him. "What's this?" to which he says "Just a hand shake." I then tell him I'm her Uncle and love her very much so be sure and understand that her welfare is my first concern. I get the feeling he's the type that might slap her around a bit to which I feel powerless to do anything about without first being called on to act. I'm 53 now %26amp; he's maybe 20 or 21. There is no doubt in my mind I could educate this young man and I'm talking old school as is my rule. This kid thinks this old biker isn't much of a challenge but if I find out he's smacked my little girl around....well like I said I'd like to hear what y'all think. What should I do? Serious now.
Need some advice on first impression of my niece's boyfriend?
I've found that my instincts have generally been right when it comes to dirt bag people. There's something so similar in all of them; maybe it's their general lack of respect. However, no one learns respect at the end of a fist. Since he's not married to your niece, talk to her about him, keeping in mind that she's very young and will defend him and his actions. Rather than set up that scenario, maybe you could tell her you're there to help her protect her child. Give her a special code word or quote or name that she can use if she needs help; tell her you're doing this because your instincts and experience tell you that her boyfriend might eventually be a problem for her. If you start wailin' on him, though, she's going to jump in and defend him. So, just make sure they both know you're watching out for your niece and her child, and anyone who makes her life miserable will regret it. Then follow up with regular checks on her and the baby. If you include the baby, she's more likely to listen.
Reply:First, remember that this is her life, and her decision to make, good or bad. Second, make sure she knows you have nothing but her best interest at heart, and will be the first one to step in if she needs it. Also, make sure that he knows that, as well. You don't want to make an enemy of someone that could become a relative, but at the same time, blood is blood.
Reply:You need to have very honest and open communication with your niece. He may not be as bad as you think. The handshake was most likely his insecurity, because I'm sure you scared the crap out of him. If she stays with this guy, make it a priority to get to know him a little. Remember the saying keep your friends close and your enemies closer??? Then you can educate him without him feeling threatened. If he is a creep, just pray that your precious niece can see it.
Reply:Call the police... dont get involved where you could end up in jail or sued... over some dirtbag...
Reply:Tell your niece in no uncertain terms that you'll always be there for her.And tell the bf you'll always be around,and look him dead in his eyes.i'm sure he'll get the point then.
Reply:Well this guy is her choice---why is only her concern--but the guy maybe OK and just wasn't very impressive in the situation you all were in. Maybe it would have been better in a different time and place. I definitely would go with your "GUT" instinct...but again, you can't take matters into your own hands. If he is abusive, you have to follow the law--and she has to be the one to report it---you can only be supportive and protective to a point. Try being nice and talking like an adult to him---see if any good qualities are there that may be a surprise to you. It may go better than you think. Visits with her and him and the kids will be a lot better if everyone is congenial and happy. It is her life--her choice--her man--and if she is the type to endure abuse--she will need more attention than him. She will need to find out why she has such low self esteem---why she needs to be dominated---it could be something you know nothing about from early childhood. Please be fair and give this guy a chance--if there is a problem it will show eventually. Then you need to get her some real effective help from the law and then a pro can help her with whatever else she needs. Hey man, I don't want to see you on COPS--keep cool.Good luck
Reply:First you made a big no no. You listened to the family gossip and made an opinion of him before you had met him based on what your sis told you. Your letting your ego on a handshake that you are possibly intimated by this 20 something dudes handshake. Im sure you being a biker guy, you've been subject to people's opinions about you that you're the type of guy to smack a girl around too.
Remember to keep your nose out of the women's gossip, you wont help anyone out by listening and having a baised opinion. Watch and see how he does and judge him on that, not on the day when his girlfriend is having his baby. He's probably stressed out as it is, and not exactly the best time to be meeting new family. He's probably trying to show you with the handshake that he's capable of protecting your niece should anything happen. Dont forget this is her life to live and unfortunatly you get a backseat pass to her decisions. Be there for her regardless of the outcome, even tho if this is the first time you're meeting this dude and she's nine months pregnant... where have you been in her life that now all of this is such a big deal? If your gunna be there for her, be there for her all the way, not just the once a year family reunion in the mat. ward of a hosptial.
Reply:What makes me wonder is why does she think so little of herself to get mixed in with a creep like that to begin with? And I understand the wanting to be protective part but someone wasn't protecting her and brinning her up to see the right and wrong way to be treated if she is with a creep like that to begin with...
What should you do? Keep your nose out of it unless asked but you are welcome of course to let her know you are there for HER.
Reply:Call in your buddies if the time comes you need to educate him properly. Even if you are tough its good to have back up.
Reply:i have a daughter thats almost 17. and i have 2 brothers. and her father and i are still together. and everytime my daughter dates someone my bros have told the boys that they have guns and arent scared to use them...lol . thy just come right out and tell them thats their niece and they wouldnt think of hurting someone to protect her... your niece has to be carefull. she needs to stand up for her self but by all means let the dirt bag know ur watching him and 1 screw up will lead to a stomping
Need some advice on first impression of my niece's boyfriend?
I've found that my instincts have generally been right when it comes to dirt bag people. There's something so similar in all of them; maybe it's their general lack of respect. However, no one learns respect at the end of a fist. Since he's not married to your niece, talk to her about him, keeping in mind that she's very young and will defend him and his actions. Rather than set up that scenario, maybe you could tell her you're there to help her protect her child. Give her a special code word or quote or name that she can use if she needs help; tell her you're doing this because your instincts and experience tell you that her boyfriend might eventually be a problem for her. If you start wailin' on him, though, she's going to jump in and defend him. So, just make sure they both know you're watching out for your niece and her child, and anyone who makes her life miserable will regret it. Then follow up with regular checks on her and the baby. If you include the baby, she's more likely to listen.
Reply:First, remember that this is her life, and her decision to make, good or bad. Second, make sure she knows you have nothing but her best interest at heart, and will be the first one to step in if she needs it. Also, make sure that he knows that, as well. You don't want to make an enemy of someone that could become a relative, but at the same time, blood is blood.
Reply:You need to have very honest and open communication with your niece. He may not be as bad as you think. The handshake was most likely his insecurity, because I'm sure you scared the crap out of him. If she stays with this guy, make it a priority to get to know him a little. Remember the saying keep your friends close and your enemies closer??? Then you can educate him without him feeling threatened. If he is a creep, just pray that your precious niece can see it.
Reply:Call the police... dont get involved where you could end up in jail or sued... over some dirtbag...
Reply:Tell your niece in no uncertain terms that you'll always be there for her.And tell the bf you'll always be around,and look him dead in his eyes.i'm sure he'll get the point then.
Reply:Well this guy is her choice---why is only her concern--but the guy maybe OK and just wasn't very impressive in the situation you all were in. Maybe it would have been better in a different time and place. I definitely would go with your "GUT" instinct...but again, you can't take matters into your own hands. If he is abusive, you have to follow the law--and she has to be the one to report it---you can only be supportive and protective to a point. Try being nice and talking like an adult to him---see if any good qualities are there that may be a surprise to you. It may go better than you think. Visits with her and him and the kids will be a lot better if everyone is congenial and happy. It is her life--her choice--her man--and if she is the type to endure abuse--she will need more attention than him. She will need to find out why she has such low self esteem---why she needs to be dominated---it could be something you know nothing about from early childhood. Please be fair and give this guy a chance--if there is a problem it will show eventually. Then you need to get her some real effective help from the law and then a pro can help her with whatever else she needs. Hey man, I don't want to see you on COPS--keep cool.Good luck
Reply:First you made a big no no. You listened to the family gossip and made an opinion of him before you had met him based on what your sis told you. Your letting your ego on a handshake that you are possibly intimated by this 20 something dudes handshake. Im sure you being a biker guy, you've been subject to people's opinions about you that you're the type of guy to smack a girl around too.
Remember to keep your nose out of the women's gossip, you wont help anyone out by listening and having a baised opinion. Watch and see how he does and judge him on that, not on the day when his girlfriend is having his baby. He's probably stressed out as it is, and not exactly the best time to be meeting new family. He's probably trying to show you with the handshake that he's capable of protecting your niece should anything happen. Dont forget this is her life to live and unfortunatly you get a backseat pass to her decisions. Be there for her regardless of the outcome, even tho if this is the first time you're meeting this dude and she's nine months pregnant... where have you been in her life that now all of this is such a big deal? If your gunna be there for her, be there for her all the way, not just the once a year family reunion in the mat. ward of a hosptial.
Reply:What makes me wonder is why does she think so little of herself to get mixed in with a creep like that to begin with? And I understand the wanting to be protective part but someone wasn't protecting her and brinning her up to see the right and wrong way to be treated if she is with a creep like that to begin with...
What should you do? Keep your nose out of it unless asked but you are welcome of course to let her know you are there for HER.
Reply:Call in your buddies if the time comes you need to educate him properly. Even if you are tough its good to have back up.
Reply:i have a daughter thats almost 17. and i have 2 brothers. and her father and i are still together. and everytime my daughter dates someone my bros have told the boys that they have guns and arent scared to use them...lol . thy just come right out and tell them thats their niece and they wouldnt think of hurting someone to protect her... your niece has to be carefull. she needs to stand up for her self but by all means let the dirt bag know ur watching him and 1 screw up will lead to a stomping
Which part of your fist should you touch first with on a target?
If you throw a punch at some one i have heard two ways, one that your front two knuckles land first and the other your pinky and ring finger connect first. i am still a student, only a green belt and in my school we land front knuckles first but another Black Belt I met at a seminar for a different style Kung Fu, im not sure which exact one though, and he said that you use the other two fingers. WHO is correct or are they both correct and just have different effect? HELP please I just want to understand.
Thanks and remember i am only a green belt with 2.5 years of Goju training. i am not an expert and know everything so please do not taunt me as if I am an expert and should know the answer, i would be a Black Belt if I did...=]]
Which part of your fist should you touch first with on a target?
To my knowledge the front two knuckles. I have rank in three Karate styles and it is all the same.
I even trained in Hung Gar and it was front knuckles.
so the other two would be a very unorthadox way and style, and IMO you would probably break your fingers and maybe wrist because you are not landing with a straight linear and strong arm and fist as Iron, but bent and weakened.
That is just my way, as i said it could be some unorthadox way which does not make it wrong, it just makes it different,
to bad you could not get a reason from the person who told you this.
Reply:First two knuckles friend. Thats how it is thrown. Its good to know how to throw a punch but also knowing how to throw empty hand is good. Keep learning it will take you far.
Reply:I've never heard anything but the first two knuckes for a straight punch. They are bigger and therefore less likely to break. This also straightens the wrist so that there is less chance of spraining or breaking it.
Are you sure te kung fu guy was not talking about some other kind of strike? There are other types of punches that use different knuckles.
Reply:You have answered your question yourself. Both are correct for their applications. Different styles can have different methods of striking, and different reasons for doing so.
I also studied Goju and in our style the strike is with the first two knuckles (and they have the largest bones in the hand to back them up) because this method focuses the energy of the strike into a small space and that magnifies the power of the impact. In Goju we use a whipping motion in the strike, delivering the power and quickly drawing the fist back. So, strongest part of the hand and small area to concentrate the power of the whip-like strike.
In some styles of kung fu, like Wing Chun which a couple of friends of mine studied and taught me a little one summer, they had strikes that began with the smaller knuckles and used a twisting motion of the wrist along with the arm and body movements to create a powerful thrusting motion, like hitting someone with a spear or the end of a staff and trying to push it through them. Another friend who studied Tai Chi, XIng Yi Quan, and Ba Gua showed me similar strikes.
You can see the difference in the strikes. Goju uses a whip-like strike to deliver a shocking blow, and the kung fu style uses a driving or drilling motion like trying to punch through the opponent's body. The Goju strikes could be used against either soft or hard body targets (head, jaw, solar plexus, ribs, etc.) while this kung fu type of striking would normally be used against softer parts of the body (neck, solar plexus, ribs, groin, etc.). If you ever hit someone in the skull with your smaller knuckles, or if you tried breakin boards of bricks with them, you would probably break your hand.
Reply:First two knuckles is the proper technique, but the last three is more natural. In wing chun in fact the last three are used.
Reply:I actually learned both ways. In martial arts, I learned to punch with my first two knuckles. then as I was training for kickboxing, I learned that boxers try top punch with the pinky side of the fist first, but my understanding of the idifference had a lot ot do with the protection of the hands offered with boxing gloves and wrapped hands.
Reply:you are learning goju-ryu, it is a karate style. the seminar you went to taught kung fu, which are different styles all together.
it usually depends on the style but generally, karate or tae kwon do styles use the first two knuckles. punching with the first two knuckles requires rotation of the hand so the knuckles are lined up horizontally
while kung fu styles like wing chun uses the last three knuckles, when punching with the last three knuckles is meant as a quick snapping punch with the knuckles lined up vertically.
so both are correct according to there respective styles.
Reply:There is never a single correct answer. However, think on this.
When people punch something and break the metacarpal bones in their hand which ones break first or are the weakest?
Survey says.. the smaller ones.. Line up the 2 metacarpal's behind the index finger and middle finger with your radius and ulna bones (in your forearm)
Strike with those to knuckles for the most force before it injures yourself.. My first instructor told us;
If you get into a fight, you could punch someone and give them a black eye... but if you break your hand and its in a cast for 6 weeks.. His eye is healed within a week but you can be proud of that cast as a trophy for "winning" a fight..
Its self defense... protect yourself from harm. Martial arts is physics , anatomy , and the kinetics of human motion
Reply:First two knuckles my son.. and I have the sore, cracked and bleeding ring and pinky knuckles to prove it - did my first session of 400 punches to a bag at training a few days ago... I'm buying GOOD sparring gloves before I do that again! Sabumnim pointed out that he could see quite clearly where my technique was at fault..... Thankful tho', I could have broken my hand or my wrist, or both.. Get it right before your hit hard and get good gloves or use wrappings.
All the best.
Thanks and remember i am only a green belt with 2.5 years of Goju training. i am not an expert and know everything so please do not taunt me as if I am an expert and should know the answer, i would be a Black Belt if I did...=]]
Which part of your fist should you touch first with on a target?
To my knowledge the front two knuckles. I have rank in three Karate styles and it is all the same.
I even trained in Hung Gar and it was front knuckles.
so the other two would be a very unorthadox way and style, and IMO you would probably break your fingers and maybe wrist because you are not landing with a straight linear and strong arm and fist as Iron, but bent and weakened.
That is just my way, as i said it could be some unorthadox way which does not make it wrong, it just makes it different,
to bad you could not get a reason from the person who told you this.
Reply:First two knuckles friend. Thats how it is thrown. Its good to know how to throw a punch but also knowing how to throw empty hand is good. Keep learning it will take you far.
Reply:I've never heard anything but the first two knuckes for a straight punch. They are bigger and therefore less likely to break. This also straightens the wrist so that there is less chance of spraining or breaking it.
Are you sure te kung fu guy was not talking about some other kind of strike? There are other types of punches that use different knuckles.
Reply:You have answered your question yourself. Both are correct for their applications. Different styles can have different methods of striking, and different reasons for doing so.
I also studied Goju and in our style the strike is with the first two knuckles (and they have the largest bones in the hand to back them up) because this method focuses the energy of the strike into a small space and that magnifies the power of the impact. In Goju we use a whipping motion in the strike, delivering the power and quickly drawing the fist back. So, strongest part of the hand and small area to concentrate the power of the whip-like strike.
In some styles of kung fu, like Wing Chun which a couple of friends of mine studied and taught me a little one summer, they had strikes that began with the smaller knuckles and used a twisting motion of the wrist along with the arm and body movements to create a powerful thrusting motion, like hitting someone with a spear or the end of a staff and trying to push it through them. Another friend who studied Tai Chi, XIng Yi Quan, and Ba Gua showed me similar strikes.
You can see the difference in the strikes. Goju uses a whip-like strike to deliver a shocking blow, and the kung fu style uses a driving or drilling motion like trying to punch through the opponent's body. The Goju strikes could be used against either soft or hard body targets (head, jaw, solar plexus, ribs, etc.) while this kung fu type of striking would normally be used against softer parts of the body (neck, solar plexus, ribs, groin, etc.). If you ever hit someone in the skull with your smaller knuckles, or if you tried breakin boards of bricks with them, you would probably break your hand.
Reply:First two knuckles is the proper technique, but the last three is more natural. In wing chun in fact the last three are used.
Reply:I actually learned both ways. In martial arts, I learned to punch with my first two knuckles. then as I was training for kickboxing, I learned that boxers try top punch with the pinky side of the fist first, but my understanding of the idifference had a lot ot do with the protection of the hands offered with boxing gloves and wrapped hands.
Reply:you are learning goju-ryu, it is a karate style. the seminar you went to taught kung fu, which are different styles all together.
it usually depends on the style but generally, karate or tae kwon do styles use the first two knuckles. punching with the first two knuckles requires rotation of the hand so the knuckles are lined up horizontally
while kung fu styles like wing chun uses the last three knuckles, when punching with the last three knuckles is meant as a quick snapping punch with the knuckles lined up vertically.
so both are correct according to there respective styles.
Reply:There is never a single correct answer. However, think on this.
When people punch something and break the metacarpal bones in their hand which ones break first or are the weakest?
Survey says.. the smaller ones.. Line up the 2 metacarpal's behind the index finger and middle finger with your radius and ulna bones (in your forearm)
Strike with those to knuckles for the most force before it injures yourself.. My first instructor told us;
If you get into a fight, you could punch someone and give them a black eye... but if you break your hand and its in a cast for 6 weeks.. His eye is healed within a week but you can be proud of that cast as a trophy for "winning" a fight..
Its self defense... protect yourself from harm. Martial arts is physics , anatomy , and the kinetics of human motion
Reply:First two knuckles my son.. and I have the sore, cracked and bleeding ring and pinky knuckles to prove it - did my first session of 400 punches to a bag at training a few days ago... I'm buying GOOD sparring gloves before I do that again! Sabumnim pointed out that he could see quite clearly where my technique was at fault..... Thankful tho', I could have broken my hand or my wrist, or both.. Get it right before your hit hard and get good gloves or use wrappings.
All the best.
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